The management of emotions both positive and negative is a fundamental human problem and it has led to many evil and atrocities across the globe. Mood swings is one of the problems of lack of emotional intelligence.Many marriages and relationships are broken because of mood swings.
Mood swings is one of the major things that increases nagging and bickering in a relationship.Before now, I have heard many men including myself say that they don’t want to marry ladies that have mood swings. I usually laugh hard now when I hear such lines.
You know why?
Do we really have people especially ladies without mood swings? Do they really exist? Personally, I don’t think so, what I feel we have are just a few people that have mastered the art of their emotions.
Having mastered the art, they now Package themselves with it (you remember what I told you about packaging and pretence the last time).Many people especially ladies are a victim of their own emotions, maybe because of their more pronounced emotional disposition to life.Mood swings can be caused by a host of varying factors.
For instance, spending too much time at work (stress) and being away from your family for extended periods of time, can lead to mood swings. A lack of proper sleep, eating an unhealthy diet and excessive use of drugs and alcohol can also cause drastic changes in your emotions.
Four Simple Ways to Deal With Mood Swings
Flame Up The List There is need for emotional awareness here, it will help to identify the moods you experience on a daily basis. It will help to detect any negative thought patterns then write them down in a notebook. Start taking inventory of those things that are currently not working in your life troubling relationships, health concerns or financial struggles. Write all of them down. You need to know that these things are here with us and will always be here, they can never end as long as we live daily. Understanding this, that “problem no dey finish” will help you.The next part of this can be prayerfully done if it appeals to your spirit but if not just go ahead and do it literally. To release the emotional tension you might be going through, take a piece paper where you wrote all those negative patterns and things not working in your life and put them to flame. As the paper burns, allow the negativity to disintegrate with the flame as well. This surely helps to provide some good relief to you. Relax for a Moment When you feel your mood begin to change, take a moment to pause, breathe deeply and meditate. Center your attention on something in the present, such as the sound of your breathing or the feeling of the wind on your skin. By focusing your attention on something sensory you can take your mind away from negative thoughts and feelings. If you feel overpowered during a mood swing and tend to lose rationality, sit down afterward and really think about what happened. Examine the event that changed your mood in relation to your reactions, and come up with a positive way of reacting to the same situation. Emotional intelligence skill is vital here.
Live Healthy Begin to assess all aspects of your lifestyle and address where you need an improvement. Do you get enough exercise? Do you get enough sleep? Do you get enough adequate diet? You need to know unhealthy habits can positively impact your mood because you are in control. Nothing can stand in your way.
Take the Alternatives You need to find other ways to deal with stress, anger and anxiety. Sometimes the solution is simple like reading a book, listening to songs that appeals to your soul or both, swimming, playing an indoor game, trying a yoga if you are a fan or go to the beach. You can also take that personal development class you’ve always desired to attend. The most important thing is to make sure that you’re making a change to become better and forgetting about whatever triggers that puts you down. If after all these and your condition does not improve on your own and you still experience frequent and severe shifts in mood, consult your a professional. It may be helpful for you to note when you have a shift in mood and what you were doing before it happened. There is always a correlation. This can help the professional assess whether you were reacting to a lifestyle change or if it’s the result of an underlying issue. Was this valuable to you? You can share in the comment section how you are struggling or managing with your own mood swings.
Okereke Soromfechi
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